The first time we went to the Boundary Waters, we didn't have a clue what we were doing. We took way too much gear and I'm not even sure what we packed it all into. The only thing I remember is that we had too many bags that were difficult to carry across portages.
Most of the fights we had in those early BWCAW years were about packing, before we had even left our driveway.
However, in the almost twenty years since we started going canoe camping we have gotten a lot better at packing for it. First of all, my honey has a list which helps us both.
Duluth Pack with a basket. Plus, there's seat bags and map cases.
I guess that it all helps, an organized list, the right packs, and lots of experience. With all that going for us, it's been years since we had a fight over packing. (Hope that doesn't jinx us next time!)